Word choice aggravation
Jan. 27th, 2015 10:36 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
korafoxAm I the only one who gets annoyed at the phrase "starting a family"? Not at the concept, of course. People who want to bring babies into the world and love and cherish them are awesome! You go, people!
But I am not somehow lacking a family until and unless my womb brings forth or I adopt a child. Even setting aside my parents and brothers--I started my family the moment husband put a ring on my finger and I put one on his. Really, the moment we started dating or moved in together, if you look at it from the retrospective point of view. Tons of people have created families with no children or wedding rings even in the picture.
So yeah, every time I hear that phrase I feel the judgey eyes of society on me for my current childless state. It would be a lot easier for me to figure out if I even want children if I could sort out my own feelings versus the cultural imperative.
I've said it before and I'll say it again--F***ing Sapir-Whorf hypothesis.
But I am not somehow lacking a family until and unless my womb brings forth or I adopt a child. Even setting aside my parents and brothers--I started my family the moment husband put a ring on my finger and I put one on his. Really, the moment we started dating or moved in together, if you look at it from the retrospective point of view. Tons of people have created families with no children or wedding rings even in the picture.
So yeah, every time I hear that phrase I feel the judgey eyes of society on me for my current childless state. It would be a lot easier for me to figure out if I even want children if I could sort out my own feelings versus the cultural imperative.
I've said it before and I'll say it again--F***ing Sapir-Whorf hypothesis.
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Date: 2015-04-08 01:50 am (UTC)